Morning Rituals That SCREAM ‘Boss Mom’ Energy (Yes, Even with a Toddler)

Because leggings and a messy bun aren’t a personality—your peace is.

Let me start by saying this: I’m not here to glamorize hustle culture. I’m here to romanticize your life—especially in the beautiful, chaotic mess of motherhood. Because let’s be real: when your toddler is yelling for snacks at 6:03 AM and your inbox is screaming louder than Cocomelon, it’s easy to forget that you matter too.

So I’ve created sacred morning rituals that ground me, not just to be more productive, but to feel more like me. The multi-passionate, creative, lipstick-loving, boss-of-her-own-life version of me.

And no, this doesn’t require waking up at 4 a.m. or doing an ice bath (unless you’re into that). Just intentional, doable things that shift your energy and remind you: You’re a woman first. Before you’re a mom, a business owner, a chef, a referee, a carpool queen.

My Morning Reset Ritual (Before the World Gets Loud)

1. Wrap Yourself in a Velvet (or Silk) Robe

It’s not just cozy—it’s a psychological life hack. Studies show that what we wear directly impacts our mindset and productivity. When I ditch the worn-out tee and slip into something that feels luxe, like velvet or silk, it instantly shifts my energy. I go from just "mom-ing" to main character mode.

Getting ready in a robe isn’t just romanticizing life—it’s a signal to your brain: We’re not just surviving today. We’re showing up.

Pro tip: Keep one hanging on the back of your door for easy access. Bonus points for satin, bold prints, or something that makes you feel that girl.

Here are some of my favorites:

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2. Light a Candle (Yes, Even in the Morning) 

Romanticizing your life isn’t just aesthetic—it’s therapeutic. Lighting a candle in the morning might feel indulgent, but research shows that activating your senses—especially scent—can have a profound impact on your mood and nervous system. In fact, studies have found that certain scents like sandalwood, amber, and vanilla can reduce cortisol levels and trigger feelings of calm and comfort.

So yes, I light a candle while my toddler eats Cheerios and the dog chases his own tail. It’s not about perfection—it’s about anchoring my body in peace, even in the chaos. A flickering flame signals to your nervous system: you’re safe, you’re grounded, you’re allowed to breathe.

My go-to is something earthy with sandalwood or amber tones—it makes my home feel less like a toy tornado hit it and more like a cozy sanctuary.

Pro tip: Find a scent you love and make it your morning ritual. Your nervous system will start to associate it with calm and presence. 

3. Soundtrack & Sanity with Alexa

Music is an instant mood shift, and I have a few go-to playlists on Spotify that I ask Alexa to play—usually with a toddler on one hip and a coffee in the other. I love starting our morning with a little dancing in the kitchen. Nothing sets the tone like some feel-good music, a two-step with my toddler, and a moment to just be before the day takes off. It helps both of us shake off any cranky vibes and move into the day feeling connected and calm.

I also use my Alexa hack to run the robot vacuums (yes, plural), which saves me time and keeps the floors from turning into tumbleweeds of fur—because, let’s be real, having two mini Aussies is a full-time cleaning gig. One voice command, and that’s one less thing I have to stress about later.

Want more alexa hacks? Here is one of my faves. ((https://www.baileysbabblings.com/post/alexa-irobot-integration))

4. Use Lamps, Not Overhead Lights

This one’s weirdly powerful. Soft lighting in the morning keeps you in a state of ease instead of alert-anxious chaos. Studies show that lighting impacts cortisol levels, mood, and even focus. No wonder cafes never blast overhead fluorescents.

5. Swipe on Lipstick or Lip Gloss (Even If You’re Going Nowhere)

No, it’s not vain. It’s neuroscience.

Studies have shown that women who take a few intentional minutes to get ready—whether that’s brushing their hair or swiping on lip gloss—report higher self-confidence and lower stress throughout the day. One study even linked wearing makeup to decreased cortisol levels (that’s your stress hormone) and increased feelings of happiness and control.

It’s not about glam. It’s about grounding.

So no, you don’t need a full glam by 7 a.m., but a your favorite bold lipstick, a pretty lip oil  or sheer gloss that catches the light just right? That’s a wearable reminder: “I’m still her.”

Still vibrant.

Still magnetic.

Still worthy of feeling good in your own skin, even on days spent chasing toddlers and answering emails one-handed.

So swipe it on. Even if it’s just for you. Especially if it’s just for you.

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6. Buy Yourself the Damn Flowers 

Trader Joe’s, Publix, the corner market—doesn’t matter. Buying yourself flowers isn’t about luxury. It’s about agency. It’s about choosing beauty for the sake of beauty.

Fresh flowers in your space can literally boost your mood. A Harvard study found that people who kept flowers in their home felt less anxious, less depressed, and more compassionate toward others. They also reported stronger feelings of joy and energy. Yes—just from the presence of flowers.

So no, it’s not “just” a $5 bouquet. It’s a statement: You are worth surrounding with softness.

I keep mine on the kitchen counter, my dresser, or the dining table —anywhere I’m likely to rush past without pausing. They stop me. Invite me to slow down. Remind me to look for small joy.

Because moms deserve beauty too. Not just on birthdays. Not just when someone else decides we’re worth it. Every single day.

Pro tip: Pick a signature bloom—peonies, tulips, eucalyptus—and make it your thing. My go-to is peonies.

Here is a favorite vase of mine.  ➝ https://a.co/d/6WEICsz

7. Romanticize the Pause: 3 Minutes of Stillness 

This isn’t about becoming a meditation master. It’s about choosing presence in a world that demands you rush. Sit somewhere quiet—or semi-quiet, let’s be real—and close your eyes for just three minutes. That’s it.

Try box breathing while you sit: 

→ Inhale slowly for 4 seconds 

→ Hold for 4 

→ Exhale for 4 

→ Hold for 4 again Repeat.

If your mind is spinning, try whispering this mantra: “I am grounded. I am powerful. I am allowed to move slowly.”

It might not seem like much, but studies show that even a few minutes of intentional breathing and stillness can lower cortisol, improve focus, and regulate your nervous system. You’re literally telling your body: you are safe here.

This practice has become one of my favorite ways to romanticize everyday life. It’s my reset button. A quiet reclaiming of energy before I’m pulled in a hundred directions.

Pro tip: Pair it with a candle or soft background music (Alexa, you’re up) to make it feel like a ritual, not a chore.

Why This Works: The Psychology Behind Romanticizing Your Mornings

This isn’t woo-woo stuff, it’s science.

• Creating ritual increases mindfulness and emotional regulation.

• Soft lighting and scent engage your parasympathetic nervous system (hello, calm).

• Getting ready has been linked to improved self-esteem and productivity—even if you never leave the house.

• Micro-luxuries (like robes or fresh flowers) signal worthiness to your brain, reinforcing self-love on a subconscious level.

• Music and meditation boost mood and reduce stress through actual neural pathways.

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You’re Not “Just a Mom.” You’re the Main Character.

Let’s be clear—this isn’t about curating a perfect aesthetic for Instagram. This is about your energy. Your presence. Your power.

When you start your day with intention—even just 10 minutes—you shift the entire tone of the day. You don’t just show up for your toddler, your business, your household… You show up for you.

And that matters.

Psychologists have long studied the power of rituals to reduce anxiety, increase confidence, and ground our nervous systems. When you choose to start your day with care, you’re telling your brain: we are safe, we are centered, we are capable.

So tomorrow morning, before you dive into chaos— Light that candle. Wrap yourself in the robe that feels like armor. Turn on the playlist that makes your shoulders drop and your hips sway. Swipe on the lipstick that instantly pulls you together. Close your eyes. Breathe. Let the main character step forward.

You are not “just a mom.”

 You are the story. The heartbeat. The home base.

 And you deserve to feel like the main character—especially in the middle of motherhood.